I know this phrase is bandied about quite often, but there is something about it that just doesn’t sit well with me.
I mean, yes, if I’m currently undergoing a massive tragedy, then this is a great way to remind myself that this bad spot I’m in isn’t going to last forever.
But, if I’m at the other 95% of my life where things aren’t catastrophically bad, I think this phrase has a tendency to turn into an unhealthy obsession with a future that has not yet arrived, while not fully appreciating what I have now.
The podcast really drove home the point about how important it is to focus on the present and not be too caught up in the future. My life right now isn’t perfect (is anyone’s?) There are aspects of it that I’m admittedly dissatisfied with, and there are things I’m working towards. But I don’t want to keep telling myself that the best of my life is yet to come. Because life is what’s happening right under my nose.
Realistically, though, “the best is yet to come” doesn’t seem like it could apply to everyone. I know people whose lives ended on a sour note — estranged from their loved ones; bankrupt, while leaving behind a young family to support; passing away just when they were putting their life together. Real life tells us that there is no guarantee that all lives end on a high, or that if we live long enough, we will eventually see the fruition of all our dreams.
The phrase seems to me like a bit of a delusion. Personally, I don’t find comfort in the fact that the best is yet to come. Because I’ve already had some pretty awesome moments in my life, and I don’t like the implication then if the best is yet to come, then those great things I’ve experienced don’t really matter as much. I want to value the things I have now, not to be continuously telling myself that the future is going to be so much better.
I do tell myself that good things will happen to me in the future.
But I also tell myself that bad things will happen to me in the future.
In the meantime, I’m just going to focus on this moment and live my life.